The Secret to Getting Nowhere

This autumn in the Hudson Valley has been mild, luscious and luminous. The apple harvest this year was extra plentiful, the foliage colors seem more vivid and the slightly warmer temps and ample sunshine have allowed for more time outdoors. When I walk my dog in the mornings I use that time to practice mindfulness, anchoring to the present moment and connecting to the Source of All. 

Last week I had a few flashes of bliss on those sunny autumn mornings that brought a particular sutra to my mind, from The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali. Sutra 2.27 is Tasya Saptadha Prantabhumih Prajna-- the translation given in my version of the text is, "One's wisdom in the final stage is sevenfold," and then seven qualities are listed. My teacher Liz Schulman who trained me to teach yoga gave us her interpretation of sutra 2.27: "When we are without ignorance, we realize there is nothing more to know, nothing to avoid, nothing new to gain, nothing more to do, there is no sorrow, no fear and no misunderstanding because we understand the true nature of ourselves and God. In other words, we have all we really need within us. We are already whole." 

Experiencing the knowledge that we are truly whole, that we don't have to chase anything, run from anything or acquire anything more, is a rarity. Some of us may believe this notion to be false. Others may intellectually grasp the truth of this idea, yet never have experienced it. Still others may believe it is true, though they have only experienced it in brief flashes, aided by external stimuli such as holding a sleeping baby, sailing on a clear day or seeing vibrant red leaves reflected through the morning sunlight and stopping in stillness to breathe the autumn air. We reach for the truth of our wholeness in those feel-good moments. But if we believe that we are already completely whole and lack nothing, then shouldn't we be able to experience this bliss and freedom without any external help? This is where compassion enters the picture: we are only human and we are often at the mercy of our prevailing culture, not to mention our own bodies and minds. 

Think about our culture and the conditioning that has trained us away from blissful realization of our wholeness. We base our lives on seeking, avoiding, acquiring and holding onto things, people and ideas.
We are oriented towards next steps, precautions, goals, planning weddings, vacations, parties, wardrobes and home renovations. This outward seeking isn't wrong in and of itself. It can just get excessive. The balance can tip towards neurosis, fatal attraction, obsession, greed, hatred and prejudice, instead of contentment, detachment, equanimity, lovingkindness and peace.

Sutra 2.27 hits on some of the deepest principles of yoga. It guides us to the concept of transcendence and being in the world, but not of it. When we can experience glimpses of this in our practice, we are experiencing a new kind of conditioning, one that is mostly absent from our popular culture. The knowledge of our inviolable wholeness is like a precious little seed planted in the soil of our minds and bodies; with time, if we keep watering the seed through more practice and attentiveness to this free and contented state of mind, the seed will sprout into all aspects of our lives: our work, our relationships, our habits of consuming food and other material things. We will become more peaceful and balanced and less prone to blindly run
after the next thing or person or idea we think we desperately need.

In our yoga practice today we can simply begin with the thought, and possibly even the feeling, of this blissful wholeness.  We can bring to mind one person or experience that makes us smile from the inside, that opens our heart, that softens our exterior and centers us. We can use this mental picture of a loved one's smile, or a blissful memory, to guide us toward the seat of bliss within us. First we can tap into that bliss. It is our true nature. Then we can orient today's practice to embrace our wholeness. We have no need to be anywhere else or seek anything more than the present embodiment of each posture and each breath. Sitting on our mat: just this. Standing in Warrior II: just that. Opening into Triangle: nowhere else to go. Just be here now, and know that you are whole.

Yoga is Self Serving

I am a practicing Yogi(ni) and a parent.  I very often hear other parents and other Yogis talk about selfishness and not wanting to be or appear "selfish." For example, a working mother I know who loves to practice yoga recently joked with a group of friends about having gone back to work, "It's been a hard year. I guess I could lie around and do yoga instead." I have heard other people say that they just can't make time to meditate, do yoga, or any other type of exercise or self-care because their jobs and families are just too important.  There is a suggestion that once we grow up and live in the real world, we must dispense with such selfishness. That is one of many viewpoints we can choose to adopt, or not. I would like to share an alternative perspective.

Yoga, meditation, time in stillness, time to simply be, and go with the flow... these things are not selfish in the sense of lacking consideration for others. On the contrary, when we center ourselves, when we make time to become grounded, to connect to the Self at our core, to attain unity and wholeness within ourselves, this has a positive impact on everyone around us, even those beyond our immediate reach. The Sanskrit word "Yoga" means "union," and the root of this word, yuj, is literally, "yoke." As human beings, we are collectively yoked in this life. Everything that happens in our sphere of existence, everything each of us thinks and does, has a far-reaching impact, whether we are aware of it or not. We sometimes get glimpses into our interconnectedness and shared consciousness. Some people are very attuned to others' feelings, even when they are far away, like a mother who knows that her child is sick or frightened though they are miles apart, or twins who always know when to call one another if something is wrong. If you are familiar with the movie Star Wars, then you may remember this quote from Obi-Wan Kenobi: "I felt a great disturbance in the Force, as if millions of voices suddenly cried out in terror and were suddenly silenced. I fear something terrible has happened." The Star Wars films allude to a shared energy that unites everyone and can be properly harnessed with the right training. Like the Jedi, we can do practices to refine our own energy, empowering ourselves to fight the good fight. Training takes time, but training is never selfish.

Our own energy is affected by the energy of the people around us, and vice versa. We are inextricably woven into a World Wide Web of Consciousness. There is some level of scientific evidence affirming this, resulting in the "unified field theory" in Physics. Some people believe in the power of collective prayer, and even more believe in the power of collective action to bring about change in the world. We should first understand that change begins within the individual. Through practicing yoga and meditation we can transcend the isolated self and deeply connect to life and to others; this is a real connection, not a text message or Instagram or Facebook kind of connection, but a connection that impacts the whole of our being, individually and collectively.

We are each part of a greater whole--our altruistic, empathetic nature wants to reach out and serve the collective. We don't want to be selfish. But we must realize that our individual consciousness is tied into a greater, collective consciousness. When we connect to the purest part of ourselves, when we access the peace and equanimity deep within us, that action has a limitless ripple effect. It is not only in doing for others that we help others. We help others by our being, as well.  Improving the quality of our presence and consciousness helps us, and in turn has an inevitable impact on others. To be or to do? That is the question: the answer is, both, yet emphasize quality over quantity. When the quality of our being improves, the quality of our doing follows, and we can do greater things for others.

As parents, this translates as centering ourselves and practicing mindfulness in our parenting, being truly present with our children in this age of unlimited distractions.

As yogis, this translates as an effort to be present and connected in our practice. In our time on our mats today, we can focus our attention to cultivate union, connection and wholeness with each breath, with each asana, and in the flow from one asana to the next. As we leave class or end our practice, we take that deeper, connected quality of being off the mat and back into our homes, our work, our relationships. This does serve the self, but in so doing, it serves the whole world.

Objectivity is Happiness

A fundamental goal in practicing yoga, or any type of meditation, is to guide our minds to a state of objectivity.  We are training the mind to perceive things clearly and objectively.  

What does it mean to be objective? Here is a definition: (of a person or their judgment) not influenced by personal feelings or opinions in considering and representing facts; not dependent on the mind for existence; actual.

To perceive situations and events objectively is difficult. Nonetheless, when we can do it consistently, we will experience more peace and happiness.

If you want to find a quick example of how difficult it is to be objective, and how much it helps when we can be, think of the last time you or someone close to you told a story about being ticked off.  

A few days ago my friend told me about his bad week at work. He said he had been in a bunch of meetings with a person who was unprepared and who talked out of turn. This same person was chosen for a job that he had applied for within the company. He said he felt like every other person in the meeting was thinking, “Wow, she is really not good at this job and you were passed over for her? You must be really bad at what you do.” As a neutral observer, this subjective interpretation of the thoughts and opinions of the others in the meeting seemed silly to me. Since I was not the one experiencing his emotions, it was easier for me to see the situation objectively: it was just a meeting; the others in the meeting were focused on getting the meeting over with, listening to what was being said or how long they had before lunch. They were not sitting there thinking about my friend and how this woman’s poor performance in the meeting reflected indirectly on him. Unfortunately, he had experienced negative emotions and stress throughout the week due to his subjective interpretation of what had happened. Just yesterday I caught myself in the same trap: I described feeling left out and judged by certain group of people when I was telling my sister a story. Her reaction, along with two other family members, was simply, “No, I really don’t think they think that way about you. That doesn’t seem right at all,” and immediately I thought about how my interpretation of events was entirely based in my subjective feelings and viewpoints. My feelings and viewpoints were upsetting me.  I was experiencing distress as a direct result of my lack of objectivity.

This happens to all of us, every day. It is part of being human. But we can help ourselves and one another when the fruits of our yoga and meditation are clarity of mind and objectivity.

In both sitting and moving meditation, we make ourselves the neutral observers of our thoughts, our sensations and our breath. We gradually tap into the natural spaciousness that comes from pure awareness, unclouded by judgments and arbitrary mental patterns. When we are able to still the mind and step outside of its activity, remaining aware of all that is happening from the temporary perspective of a neutral observer, we will gradually be able to tap into that freeing objectivity in our everyday lives...not all of the time, not even most of the time, but bit by bit, until we begin to experience more peace, more harmony, more unity, within and without. This is the fruit of our practice.

We will practice this objectivity today, first in sitting meditation, then in mindfully moving through our postures. When you observe a distressing thought, or a pleasant thought, see it for what it is: just a thought. Let it go. When you observe a physical sensation or difficulty in a posture, or ease in a posture...stay with it long enough to observe it, see it for what it is, and let it go. Don’t judge it by clinging to the thoughts, “I am not good at this,” or “this is my favorite posture and I look great doing it.” Recognize what is there, and then move on, happily, freely, objectively.

Sermon: Up from the Waters

As you have undoubtedly gathered by now, from the music, the scripture reading and the altar, we are celebrating water today. We are paying attention to the transformative and healing qualities of this essential element, and we are focusing more particularly on the importance given to water purification rituals in the world’s many faith traditions.  For generations, people from all corners of the world have given water a central role in the way they relate to the Divine.  So I am asking the question, why is this so?  What is the purpose of the Jewish mikveh or Christian baptism? Who do Muslims practice ablutions before prayers? Why do Hindus wash in the Ganges River? What’s the fascination with water and spirituality all about? 

Let’s start with the universal spiritual significance of water.  It is a symbol of clarity and purity in every religion.  Cleansing by water is part of our collective spiritual consciousness, and even more fundamentally, it is an unavoidable part of existence not only for humans, but for the animal kingdom at large.  Some people and animals like to avoid it, but everybody and everything has to get washed sometime. Have you ever thought about this? You know the bird baths you see in people’s yards?  They look a little like baptismal fonts, or Holy Water urns! Next time you see birds taking a bath you’re going to think of that! Those birds are getting holy! Especially if they’re cardinals! (Please, don’t throw things at me.) And elephants… we love to watch them bathe, spraying water on their bodies with their trunks! They are self-sprinkling with Holy Water from the jungle! Seriously, though, we can’t get away from regular washing in water if we are living and breathing on this Earth.  We do it habitually--it is a part of our physical routine.  And we wash the dishes…the wise and venerable Buddhist teacher we all love, God bless him, he was on Oprah last year: Thich Nhat Hanh.  He teaches about washing your dishes as a spiritual practice.  He says to wash your dishes with gratitude and mindfulness.

So we know a lot about physical washing, or what Jesus called washing the outside of the cup.  But what about washing what’s on the inside?  I am not referring to a cleanse or a detox! That’s still the outside of the cup; that still falls under physical washing. These water purification rituals we see in the many faiths, these are about spiritual washing.  And can we take out our spirit and soap it up?  Can we wash it and hang it out to dry?  No, not really, so this water purification in the different religious traditions is a symbolic act.  We are symbolizing with the water what we would like to experience on the inside of the cup as well as the outside.  We are focusing not just on the physical, but on spiritual cleanliness and purity.  So then a mikveh, or a baptism, or a river immersion, or any water purification ritual symbolizes washing impurities and things from our past away, so that we can emerge into a new spiritual reality; it is a preparation for, an initiation into a significant spiritual act or commitment.  It is symbolic of transformation and new birth. 

Let’s look at how we humans are celebrating this symbolic ritual around the world, just to get a glimpse of the richness and commonality of our beautiful spiritual traditions.  Let’s take a virtual world tour. 

We’ll travel East to West.  First up on the map is Japan, the birthplace of Shintoism. The Shinto tradition was created from the way the people of ancient Japan systematized their understanding of and relationship to the Divine. Like so many of the world’s faith systems, this one started with connection to and reverence for the Earth.  The people in ancient Japan believed that the Divine inhabited trees, rocks, mountains, springs of water and other natural phenomena.  From the inception of Shintoism, each act of worshipping the Divine began with water purification.  This is why you will find a trough for ritual washing inside of every Shinto shrine.  Waterfalls are held to be sacred in Shintoism, and standing under a waterfall is a powerful purification practice.  When I learned this, I was very touched, since standing under a waterfall is a visualization practice I have used from early childhood in moments of stress, and I seek out waterfalls as natural meditation sites now.  Again, this comes back to our collective spiritual consciousness as humans.  Waterfalls are also used in Japan in practices called suigyo, translated as “water austerities.”  These are practiced in Nichiren Buddhism today.  Some Buddhists have adapted the ancient Japanese ritual of standing under waterfalls while chanting sacred scriptures.  Now, Buddhist monks and nuns practice suigyo for cleansing and purification, by standing in front of basins of pure water which have been blessed by the Sui-jin, the water deities.  They sing sacred words from the Lotus Sutra while using water from the basin to purify themselves before beginning their daily spiritual practice.  The Lotus Sutra instructs monastics to clean themselves within and without, and these are the particular verses they chant during suigyo.

Next stop, India.  We are staying in Asia for the time being. I’m trying to take an efficient route.  In India, and elsewhere, Hindus begin the day with morning cleansing by water.  This is often done on a river bank, so let’s visualize a river: In a practice called Tarpana, the worshipper makes a cup with his hands and pours the water back into the river reciting mantras.  After sipping some water, he may then apply the distinguishing mark of his sampradaya (tradition), and say the morning prayer, samdhya.  Sodhana is a word that means “cleansing,” and the name of the Hindu purification practice. Physical purification is a part of daily ritual which can be very elaborate.  Every Hindu temple has a pond near it and worshippers are supposed to take a bath before entering the temple. As in Japan, natural sites featuring water are considered sacred in India.  Indeed, to Hindus all water is sacred, especially rivers, and there are seven sacred rivers, the Ganges being the one we are most familiar with, and with good reason because it is an extremely important sacred river in Hinduism: In the Ganges the pure are made even more pure, and the impure have their pollution removed if only temporarily.  In the sacred water, distinctions of caste are supposed to count for nothing, as all sins fall away.  Although Hinduism encompasses so many different beliefs, all Hindus strive to attain purity and avoid pollution. This relates to both physical cleanliness and spiritual well-being, as in all the faiths we are discussing. (Just an aside here, we know that there is a huge pollution problem in India and by Western standards it is very dirty, but when we think this way we should remember compassion and think back to the great pains that Western countries went through as they industrialized, and we should remember the very different history that India has, the multiplicity of faiths there, and the many forces that prevent the sort of universal cleanliness seen in some Asian countries such as Singapore.) Before we leave India, I must mention the first cleanliness requirement I learned from the tradition of Yoga: it is the first of the niyama, the five fixed observances in Yoga, and it is called sauca, the Sanskrit word for cleanliness.  Yogis talk a lot about what this cleanliness really is, and how we are to attain it, and while it does have the external aspect of physical purity and orderliness of our surroundings, sauca is about spiritual purity.  Here is a short passage from a great book about yogic mysticism and parallels with the teachings of Jesus, Quest for the Kingdom, by John Newman:

The meaning of sauca is not the cleanliness that comes from washing one’s hands before eating; rather, it is about the internal cleanliness that results from paying attention to spiritual cultivation. Several teachings that go back to Jesus speak directly to the first niyama of yoga.  The aphorism What Goes In is a direct literal attack on Pharisaic purity codes. Jesus insists that emanations of one’s ego (what comes out of one’s mouth), not the food one eats (what goes in), subvert one’s spirit: “What goes into your mouth will not defile you; rather, it is what comes out of your mouth that will defile you.” Another saying of the historical Jesus criticizes the traditional Jewish purity code of external washing: [and this is in the Gospels of Matthew and Luke as well, but John Newman quotes the Gospel of Thomas] 1Why do you wash the outside of the cup? 2Don’t you understand that the one who made the inside is also the one who made the outside? (pg. 157).

Then the author goes on to explain the insinuation that the Pharisees were neglecting the internal for the external, in his words, “paying attention to what is impure and transient outside of us, and not paying attention to what is pure and permanent inside of us.” (id.) I appreciate these reminders from yogic teachings as well as Christian teachings, to retain constant awareness of the spiritual purity we are seeking, lest we become overly attached to surface purity in our cleansing rituals, neglecting the inside for the outside.  That is such an important part of today’s lesson, and it’s a good segue to move us over to our next destination on our field trip: the Middle East.

            Let’s start with Israel, since we were just discussing the ancient purity code in Judaism.  Generally, the laws in Judaism concerning ritual purity and cleanliness come from the Torah, the first five books of the Bible, and also from a much later source, the Code of Maimonides in the Mishneh Torah, which was written in the 12^th century.  Many definitions of what is considered kosher or not, in Orthodox Judaism, are found in the Mishneh Torah, but for our purposes we will just talk briefly about the purity code in the Torah, because the rules on ritual purity and ritual washing that Jesus addressed are found there, and because some of those washing and sprinkling practices persist to this day in Judaism and of course in Christianity which came out of Judaism.  In Judaism ritual washing is intended to restore or maintain a state of ritual purity.  These ablutions can be washing the hands, the hands and the feet, or total immersion which must done in 'living water', i.e. the sea, a river, a spring or in a mikveh.  A mikveh is a Jewish ritual bath. Only water that has not previously been drawn into a container can be used, and there must be no leakages. In Temple times ablutions were practiced by priests, converts to Judaism as part of their initiation rites, and by women on the seventh day after their menstrual period. Priests had to wash their hands and feet before taking part in Temple services.  The ritual washing of hands is performed before and after meals and on many other occasions. We see this same type of ritual washing in Islam, and it is most particularly evident in the ritual washing that is done five times a day before salat prayers. In the washing before salat, the face, hands and feet are cleaned with water, but sand can be used when water is not available.

In Christianity, we are all familiar with the rite of Baptism, which depending on the denomination, is done either by full immersion into water or by pouring a small amount of water onto the crown of the head, which for a baby is often referred to as a christening.  Baptism is symbolic of initiation into the Christian community of faith, and of a new birth as a Christian. Many Christians see baptism as a symbol of new life following death. Christians use water in sprinkling rituals as well, and sprinkling is a practice that is also inspired by earlier Jewish practice.  Substances other than water were to be sprinkled for various ritualistic purposes, most commonly blood. Blood was sprinkled on the altar of sacrifice as part of the ritual for a variety of sacrificial offerings, and the sprinkling of blood is associated with the ceremony of covenant ratification.  Members of the Jewish priesthood were sprinkled with blood as part of their ordination ritual.  Blood sprinkling was also done in something similar to what we might call a “house blessing” today. The sprinkling of water for ritual cleansing was indicated under certain circumstances, such as following any contact with a corpse. My favorite reference to the sprinkling of water, in all of the Bible, is found in one of our scripture readings today, Ezekiel 36:24-26, which mentions the sprinkling of water by God onto the people, thereby renewing their hearts and spirits.  This verse is so well-loved because it combines the idea of ritual cleanliness with the phenomenon of profound spiritual renewal. This sprinkling referenced in Ezekiel is a washing of the inside of the cup, the heart and the spirit.  Following such a transformation, we are able to live from our spirits rather than from the impermanent part of ourselves, the heart of stone referenced in Ezekiel 36: the ego center.  That is the understanding of it that makes the most sense to me, and that not coincidentally jives with the practices in the other faiths we are looking at today. 

Speaking of these other faiths, before we wrap up this world tour, it’s time to jump over to Africa and then to the Americas, if only briefly.  Africa is such a vast continent with practically innumerable tribal spiritual traditions and rituals, water of course figuring prominently in many. In my research for today, one particular ritual caught my eye because it tied into what have learned about the Jewish purification rituals surrounding death.  In South Africa, following a funeral the guests are invited to partake in a meal at the home of the deceased.  Before entering the house, they must each follow a cleansing ritual, washing off the literal and figurative dust from the graveyard.  Sometimes pieces of freshly cut aloe are placed into the water, and this is believed to ward off bad luck or negative energy surrounding the circumstances of the death, and re-center the focus on life rather than death.  Again we encounter the concept of a water ritual signifying new life following death. 

To end our tour, let’s finish in North America, where we are physically residing at the moment. Native American spirituality is another vast swath of practices and information, so again I have chosen one particular water ritual to describe, and it is from the Cherokee tribe. The Cherokee do something called “going to water,” in their celebration of the first new moon in October.  The Great New Moon Ceremony represents the celebration of the new year for the Cherokee, so along with the other ways they celebrate, such as dancing and sharing produce from the fields, they immerse in water seven times to wash away the past and purify themselves for a new cycle.  Again, we see here a cleansing of the past, a washing away of the old self to welcome in a new beginning. 

Now we can put down our bags, settle into this space and ruminate some more on the meaning of these water rituals.  We have seen that water purification rituals are sometimes once in a lifetime events, but many of them are cleansing rituals performed again and again. So, when we wash in the waters, one time, or many times…what gets washed away? We just mentioned this with reference to the heart of stone in Ezekiel.  We wash away the old self, the egocentric self, the sick and dying self, the addicted and deluded self, the suffering, separate self.  When we wash spiritually, the cumulative effect of spiritual washing (spiritual practice and devotion) eventually works to reveal the brilliant jewel within us, like these shining crystals we see on the altar. We are uncovering the spiritual self, the Essence. 

This is an interfaith gathering and an interfaith sermon. So how do we approach water purification rituals in the Interfaith Movement? How and why would we celebrate these, other than the fact of their universality? As a group with a common perspective, we are not hung up on purity laws. We’re not incessantly washing our hands out of fear of spiritual death or damnation.  We are supposed to be more enlightened than that, even with our bottles of hand sanitizer. We are working towards the goal of world peace and understanding, shared global values, the realization of Oneness, and the shift in consciousness from the ego to the essence.  Supposedly we are the spiritual radicals of our era. What do we have to do with baptism? Well, let’s think about that for minute.  What are the first names we hear in connection with baptism? Jesus and John the Baptist, right? Do we have anything in common with those two?

Let’s look at John the Baptist. Most notably, he is the person who first recognized Jesus as the Messiah and baptized him in the River Jordan, and he is known for that. Historically, not much is known about him, other than the fact that he was a pretty radical guy. He was described as wearing wild, caveman-like clothing made of camel’s hair, with a leather belt around his waist. He reportedly survived on a diet of locusts and wild honey and he wandered around, an itinerant preacher, preaching a radical message. He was a sort of ascetic, and is often associated with the Essenes, a Jewish mystical sect from that time period. It’s debatable that John was ever a part of the Essenes, but they, like John, practiced a ritual washing that required a change of heart, a baptism that was focused on the internal rather than the external. This is true even though the Essenes were very caught up in ritual purity for its own sake. John the Baptist was what scholars call an apocalyptic eschatologist. He preached that the end was near and that meant people needed to wake up, right then and there, and get ready for God to act. Jesus is also sometimes described as someone who taught an apocalyptic message above all else, but there are now some scholars who say that he was more of a sapiential eschatologist, meaning that his message was more of a call to create the Kingdom of God on Earth in the present moment, to transform ourselves now and come into alignment with God’s will and God’s heart, rather than focusing on an imminent Judgment Day. In the words of the scholar John Dominic Crossan, author of The Historical Jesus: “An eschatologist is somebody who sees that the problem of the world is so radical that it's going to take some kind of divine radical solution to solve it. One type, for example, is John. God is going to descend in some sort of a catastrophic event to solve the world. There is another type of eschatology. And that's what I think Jesus is talking [about]. I'm going to call it ethical eschatology. That is the demand that God is making on us, not us on God so much as God on us, to do something about the evil in the world. In an apocalypse, as it were, we are waiting for God. And in ethical eschatology, God is waiting for us. That's, I think, what Jesus is talking about in the Kingdom of God. It's a demand for us to do something in conjunction with God. It is the Kingdom of God. But it's the Kingdom on earth of God.”

Jesus said that we have to be born again, and baptized by water and the spirit. We are to become new creatures. And the water alone is not enough—we must also renew spiritually. This is getting back to the illustration about the inside versus the outside of the cup. Jesus and John the Baptist preached very radical, transformative messages. I think these messages are similar to what we are talking about when we speak of conscious evolution and a shift in consciousness from ego to essence, in ourselves and in our world. How much do our current religious systems reflect this type of transformative message? Do they instead uphold old forms and rituals, conservative values, many of which have passed their expiration date? Our current religious systems are also trying to evolve, but in many ways they remain stuck. It is the job of their followers to move them forward. So in Interfaith, what are we conserving and what are we birthing? We want to conserve what serves and wash away the rest. We want to preach the radical message of emergence as a universal human from the sacred waters of the Earth. That is our life after baptism. Like us, John the Baptist represented a departure from the culturally bound local self. We are preaching a message of spiritual renewal and spiritual purity, birthing the transition from the old, egoic self to the new, spiritual self. So we are asking the question, to ourselves and to all people, what kind of world can we co-create when the old ways are washed away? What will we see when we come up from the waters of our rebirth?

Awareness of Archetypes in Game of Thrones

Last night's episode of Game of Thrones was particularly dark and gruesome.  The Game of Thrones books and HBO series depict a power struggle among a group of ruling families within a fictional society based on feudal, medieval Britain and Europe.  

I enjoy watching even the more violent and disturbing episodes, because they make me think about forward progress through history and Jung's collective unconscious. I love to work with archetypes in my own self-growth process and Game of Thrones is chock full of them.  

An archetype is a universal symbol that alerts us to repeating patterns and behaviors embedded in our individual and collective psyche.  Archetypes range from the broad and general to the refined and specific; both simple and complex characters in literature, film and television invite us to recognize archetypes.  In Game of Thrones we have a complex structure of interconnected archetypes and characters, some simple and obvious: Warriors like Jon Snow and Rob Stark, The Heroine (Daenerys), The Witch (Melisandre), The Villain and Corrupt Ruler (Joffrey). We also see characters embodying multiple archetypes or evolving from one archetype to another, such as Catelyn Stark, The Mother and the Wise Old Woman, and Shae, The Prostitute who evolved into a dutiful Servant and Lover.  

In the twins, Cersei and Jaime Lannister, I recognize an interplay between the Anima and the Animus, and even through their long separation, Jaime has found another way to keep this going with Brienne of Tarth. Here comes a spoiler, so skip the next sentence if you are not caught up on the episodes.  In the violent scene where Jaime loses his right hand, we are reminded that he was once an unmatched swordsman.  It is significant that he lost his last sword fight to a woman serving as a knight, and that he lost his hand saving her life and her virtue. The right hand was cut off, and the right side of the body represents the masculine.  Brienne of Tarth is a masculinized noble lady, a female knight.  Those of us working to balance and allow expression to both Anima and Animus can play with all of the subtleties of the Jaime Lannister character. I am excited to see how his relationship with Brienne unfolds, and also to watch how the incestuous dynamic will change between him and his female twin Cersei.  

Many of us are also developing awareness of ancestral patterns and tapping into collective memories.  The more violent and barbaric scenes in Game of Thrones, depicting cruelty, ruthlessness, enslavement, prostitution, sexual abuse, warring, relentless power struggles, betrayal and torture--these alert me to repeating behaviors throughout the development of human history.  We see the underbelly of our tribal beginnings and the struggle for survival and dominance we have shared as a species. These conditions still exist on our planet today, but have continued to improve over thousands of years, with periods of regression followed by quantum leaps of forward progress.  

In my interfaith seminary training, we have studied the theory of conscious evolution and also Jungian techniques in spiritual counseling. I have learned that we must work to bring our collective and individual Shadows to consciousness.  Carl Jung said, "What is not brought to consciousness comes to us as fate." Seeing violence and upheaval, within ourselves, in our world, in our relationships, or even on television... is unpleasant.  We can turn off a show or put down a book, and it is wise to use caution in what we take into our consciousness. At the same time, it can also be therapeutic and constructive to actively work with dark literary or artistic content. It shakes things loose so we can recognize them and lessen their grip on us. As someone with a literature background, I have done this for years and will continue to do so.  I applaud the Game of Thrones writers for bringing so many collective issues to a mass audience.  I will keep watching and doing my own work on the side. 

The Gift of Prayer

Prayer is always a gift. When you pray alone, it is a gift to God and to yourself. When you pray with others, it is a gift to them and to God.

Prayer changes based on whom you are praying with and for, and it flows from
the heart. If your heart is not open, you will be constricted in praying spontaneously for others and with others. Many of us live more from our heads than from our hearts. On a day when you know you will offer prayer for people in need, perform actions that open the heart: recall what recent blessings and synchronicities have graced your life; recall your failings and the forgiveness

you have received; sing; or open your heart center in the body through yoga or dance.

Always speak the names of the people present with you in your prayers and thank

God for them. When praying in a group of 8 or fewer, every person in the room

can be lifted up to God personally by name with specific needs, however small.

In a larger group, the collective body and their needs are expressed, sometimes with attention given to certain ones who have requested prayer.

In prayers for healing, the ailments and specific body parts affected are named

and the desired transformation in the body is described in as much detail as

possible. It is very helpful to mention the tissues and cells of the body, to

speak to them and bless them. The body responds to spoken prayer and inspired

voice commands amazingly quickly.

Prayers are sealed with love and gratitude. In whatever way your heart directs

you, offer praise and thanks to God and gratitude for all those present as you

close your prayer.

In your life, remember the words of Paul and pray without ceasing. Our lives are living prayers.

Photo credit: oneprayergirl.blogspot.com

The Long Game

Last week I had dinner and went to yoga with a busy friend.  When I say busy, I mean four children, full-time job and wake up before 5 a.m. busy.  So I was flattered that she made time for me and impressed that she made time for herself.  We talked about busy women, balancing family with work, and looking at life as "the long game" (not a reference to the British TV show).  

Here is what I took away from the long game discussion: in a lifetime, a woman can experience and accomplish a dizzying number of things, but when we try to hit all of our targets at once, that's when we really get dizzy.  I know, I know...when we were little they told us we could have it all: a spouse, children, a rich education, a meaningful and/or lucrative career, developed interests and passions and a travel map full of colored thumb tacks. Our generation of women was to be liberated and gifted. Some of us had the idea we'd have all of this at once. And some women do, and if we feel like it, we can be inspired by their examples. We can also be inspired just looking at our own lives. 

Wherever we are, we can be pleased with ourselves. Why? Because some of us never really thought we'd do it all at once.  Others may have changed their outlook once the reality of a rewarding yet all-consuming career set in--maybe the single life was a better fit after all.  Motherhood may have caused us to adjust course, balancing priorities and re-evaluating short and long term goals, based on a family's particular needs. Or perhaps an ailing parent or sibling needed help and reduced hours were required. It could be that a divorce inspired an international move, a couple of years off for travel, or a prioritization of self-growth over the drive to reproduce. The scenarios are endless, but it's clear that most people, not just women, aren't hitting every aspect of the idealized life at one time.  

If you are like me and the busy mom I was talking to, you have your passions, your interests, your goals and your precious relationships. You have trips you want to take and skills you want to refine. In spite of everyday pressures, you enjoy each day for what it has to offer, but you can't help thinking about next steps and new ways to grow.  This doesn't make us restless.  In fact, it's an auspicious sign--it means you have hope, you are optimistic, you can still look at life as if you were 18, but instead of saying, "my whole life is in front of me," you say, "the rest of my life awaits me." I'm 41. If I look at what I have done since I was 18, it is such a long view.  It opens up more space for me to realize that I have hit many, many points on my short list AND my long list. Had I boiled all that down to five years... well, that would be impossible! Make that calculation for your own life, and watch the time pressure disappear. 

Maybe you're not seeing your kids as much as you thought you should when you went back to work. Or, maybe you plunged head first into parenting and community, but your career is on a hiatus. Maybe you haven't gone on a honeymoon yet or you never got around to learning ballet or running the New York marathon. That doesn't mean that those things won't happen--it just means they didn't all happen at the same time.  For most of us it's impossible to live out all our dreams in the short term. And many people who seem to be doing it are mostly unable to savor anything; they are under-slept, overstimulated, over-medicated and possibly overrated. 

We live in a culture of extremes, but we intuit that moderation is better for us.  However we choose to do it, we learn to prioritize, balance, and find the combination that works best.  We can do it all and have it all, if we expand our perspective and view our life as from above, rather than down low, crowded in among the blades of grass. We can look out over the horizon.  We can see our way ever expanding before us, with plenty of space to evolve. There is no rush, no urgency, unless we impose it. We can give ourselves permission to love what we have right now, believing that the well-rounded life of childhood dreams is possible, when we play the long game.